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Sue Dreamwalker's avatar

We so often are so ready to pull ourselves down when we notice our own little mistakes, while we are the first to praise others and help them feel better about themselves over theirs..

It is a trait I too am guilty of, stemming from the childhood feeling of not being worthy of praise.

Indeed Jane, we are all of us still learning, and without our little mistakes, in all of life's experiences, we would not learn and grow...

Learning to Let our own self judgement go, and forgive and love ourselves, has to be one we find the hardest in mastering...

But we are learning.... As we learn to LOVE, and share that love..

I loved your post dear Jane, and my catch up here with you this evening..

Much LOVE to you my friend... And as my 'guide' once said to me, " There are no mistakes in life, just choices".. :-)

Much love xx 💖🙏

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Jane Dalton's avatar

How right you are, about it being a hard thing to master, yet we are the first to support and lift others. We are learning to Love. 🩷😘 Your guide's words are wise... as are you, my lovely. Much love to you and your two B's. Xxx big hugs Xxx🩷😘🩷

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Jane Dalton's avatar

You are loving grace in action, dearest Lauren and I am so grateful we are connected. Much love to you all, with hugs. Xxxxx 🩷😘🩷✨️

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Lauren Scott's avatar

I can relate to 'beating yourself up' Jane, but as I get older, I give myself more grace. As you said, we are all human. My son tells me to not overthink things (which he probably got from me) and my daughter reminds all of us to give ourselves grace when we need it. Lovely post and reminder, dear friend. Sending hugs and lots of love to you and Tim. You are a beautiful friend! xoxoxoxoxo

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Pete Springer's avatar

"That doesn't stop you from being lovely." That response was perfect because the woman was paying you a compliment while also letting you know she took no offense to your unintentional mistake.

I so identified with your comment about beating yourself up. I've done the same but have come to terms with understanding that perfection is an impossible standard to hold ourselves to. Just as the woman forgave you, we need to allow ourselves the same grace.

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Jane Dalton's avatar

Pete, I am so grateful for your thoughtful reply. Grace, yes. Thank you. Much love to you and Debbie. Xx 🩷

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John W.Howell's avatar

I remember when I was a young perfectionist. My mistakes would haunt me to the point of affecting my work and life. Age has changed things, and I no longer worry about my mistakes. I think the fact that if you put all my mistakes together, there would not be enough evil to harm a fly has changed my outlook on the importance of mistakes in life. A lovely post, Jane. Love to you and Tim.

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Jane Dalton's avatar

Thank you, John, for your lovely comment. You are lovely. Thank you. Much love to you, Mrs H, Twiggy and Tempeste. Xx 🩷

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John W.Howell's avatar

😊

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Jane Dalton's avatar

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