Clusters of Love...

Spring is starting to show her beauty in the Northern Hemisphere. The Anemones and other bulbs we planted in our front raised bed two years ago have divided and are gifting us more blooms this year. They are a sight to see each time we go in and out of our home. 💜

We are also grateful to the clusters of dear souls we are connected to, who are in touch. We recognise how hard it is for people to know what to say, and given what is unfolding in the world right now, many are understandably fearful and worried. What is happening in our home in a tiny microcosm compared to world events, yet there are parallels.

Tim and I decided at the start that we would not add fear, drama or any upset into our mix. That also means that we choose not to send any of these kinds of energies out into the world. We believe that what we send out comes back, and the last thing we want to do is add to energies that pull people down.

It’s been interesting so far. It is also a tricky thing to write about and share, because we choose to believe that people mean well, and may not realise what they are saying or how their messages land. Messaging is always tricky. Face-to-face is much better, but as we are isolating, we are falling back on phone calls and messaging.

We are all operating from our version of ‘normal’.

Some well-meaning people send messages: ‘Let us know if you need anything.’ Then go silent.

We share that we have been instructed to isolate, and the reply is, ‘Let us know if you’d like a cuppa or a visit.’

Some ask how Tim’s treatment is going, but then try to re-ignite old arguments.

Others send long lists of worries, and fire off many ideas about what we should and shouldn't be doing.

Some are naturally wrapped up in their own world, and still ask us to show up for them as we have always done.

Some have clear ideas of how we should be handling our situation, which they don’t hesitate to share.

They are all operating from their version of ‘normal’.

Everything takes energy, so we are careful in our responses. Mindful that people are people, and they are trying to help, so we stay calm and kind. We send kind thoughts, clear and kind replies, all the while honouring our boundaries.

Clarity is our touchstone. 💜

I recall a newly diagnosed friend asking me what the hardest thing to cope with was. My reply, ‘Other people’s reactions’.

Tim and I share the belief that everyone is doing their best, and even if they are not, it makes our world bearable to believe they are.

For those messages and calls that catch us, we have a brief natter, then let them flow past, like leaves on a stream. For those who wish to ignite a row, cause an upset and impose their agenda, we are grateful for their future silence.

We hold the cluster of souls who are like-minded and kind in our hearts.

When we receive loving messages, we are so grateful, as not everyone can find the words.

Kind thoughts are a loving energy.

Kindness is the energy we send out into the world.