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MutedCulture's avatar

Wow. This is beautiful and brutal in the way grief actually is.

I love that you name the part most people skip past, that there are side effects of loss that never make it into the literature, they just live in bodies trying to keep going. Love does not die, so grief has to live somewhere, and for most of us that ends up being the nervous system, the calendar, the small daily rituals no one else notices.

Writing from inside that reality, not outside it, is a huge service to both camps, the ones who are grieving and the ones who think they understand because they have read about it. You are not just telling a story of loss, you are mapping what it means to stay here after the impact and keep choosing to live anyway.

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Jane Dalton's avatar

Thank you, Jules, for your deeply kind and thoughtful comment. You are right about how grief lives in our nervous system, the calendar and the small daily rituals that are significant to us. Beautifully expressed. Debby powerfully writes about grief, from her shattered experience, and as you say, that will help many in both camps. Thank you for being here. Xx 🩷

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Sue Dreamwalker's avatar

Gosh Jane, I am so far behind your postings here... And How wonderful to see your review of our mutual lovely friend Debby. Her journey through grief I know has and still is quite tough, but she always shares from her heart, and the wisdom she shares I know will help many who read here wise words written in this personal journey through her own grieving process...

Many thanks for sharing xx Sending love and Hugs xx 🙏💖

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Jane Dalton's avatar

I applaud you, dearest Sue. Thank you for all your loving and thoughtful comments this morning. I am not surprised, as you have had much to contend with lately, especially in the frosty, cold weather we have been having. 🤗🩷

Our lovely friend, Debby's, book and shared experiences will touch many. 🩷🦄🩷

Much love to you and your two B's, always with hugs. Xxxxx 🩷😘🦉🩷

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D.G. Kaye's avatar

Oh my my UB, what a lovely surprise to find here! Thank you so much for your interest and time for reading my book. I have no doubts that you, in your line of work, have seen your share of much of what I write about. Thank you for yours and Tim's generous hearts, and for sharing here.

Sending much love your way 💜💚🦄❌⭕

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Jane Dalton's avatar

Hello, our special UB, you have created a special book, and your words and experience will touch and help many others. I am so very sorry, as the email I sent originally misspelt your name. No excuse, and I made sure my post was corrected. Best intentions, poor execution! Much love and many hugs to you, our lovely, from us both. Xxx 🩷🦄😘🩷

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D.G. Kaye's avatar

Lol UB, it's the thought that counts. Big hugs to both. 💜🧡❌❌🦄

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Jane Dalton's avatar

Huge hugs back to you, our lovely UB. You are special. We hope you have a lovely weekend and your new ride is getting closer. Xxxxx ❤️😘❤️🦄

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D.G. Kaye's avatar

From your mouth to the universe's ears - thank you xox🦄🦄💜💜

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Jane Dalton's avatar

💕✨️🦄💕

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Lauren Scott's avatar

Thanks for your lovely review of Debby's book, Jane. I look forward to reading it, and I know it will help others who are grieving in some way. Hugs to you and Debby. xoxo ❤️

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Jane Dalton's avatar

Thank you, dearest Lauren. Yes, you are right, I feel Debby's book will help many. Hugs to you, my lovely. Xxx ❤️✨😘❤️

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H Stearley's avatar

Sounds like a great book

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Jane Dalton's avatar

It is, H. Debby has written a very helpful book. Xx 🩷 H 🩷

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judith barrow's avatar

Debby writes with such insightfulness and compassion, Jane.

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Jane Dalton's avatar

Yes, Judith, you are spot on. Love flowing to you both. Xx 🩷

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judith barrow's avatar

💗

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Jane Dalton's avatar

🩷

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Pete Springer's avatar

I second your thoughts on Debby's book, Jane Not only is the read useful for grievers but friends of those going through a hard time.

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Jane Dalton's avatar

Hello, Pete, yes, you are right, Debby's book helps those who are grieving and their friends who want to offer support. Our love to you and Debbie, and we hope you are having a good weekend. Xx 🩷

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John W.Howell's avatar

A terrific review for Debby's book, Jane. Congratulations to her.

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Jane Dalton's avatar

Thank you, John. Debby has written a special book that will help many people. Our love to you all. Xx 🩷

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Darlene Foster's avatar

A fabulous review of Debby's wonderful book, Jane. Debby writes straight from the heart.

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Jane Dalton's avatar

Hello, lovely Darlene, thank you. Yes, Debby does write from her heart. Thank you for helping me spot a slip I had made on my post! You are so thoughtful and kind. 🩷 Much love to you and Paul, and we wish you a lovely weekend. Xx 🩷

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